Are you a good mother to your child? Everyone seems to have well-intentioned advice, but do you always have to do something with it? How can you enjoy motherhood without constantly worrying about everything that can go wrong? Are you the only one who experiences this? And how should it go when you return to “normal life”?

During pregnancy and the first year after giving birth, a woman is vulnerable. Especially when she has had to deal with a traumatic delivery, an unexpected pregnancy, stress during and after pregnancy, relationship problems, fatigue or perfectionism. In this vulnerable period, about 1 in 10 women experience postpartum depression and even 1 in 5 women have mental symptoms.

When can you use help?

Many women with postpartum depression find it difficult to admit to themselves that they are depressed. They feel ashamed or even guilty because they feel that motherhood should only be fun or positive. The same applies to mothers who do not have depression, but are still not feeling well.

Often these women have little understanding from their environment and the well-intentioned advice the women receive are not enough to get a positive feeling again.

When you start to get delusions and lose contact with reality, it is important that you contact the midwife or the doctor immediately. You are then dealing with postpartum psychosis. The symptoms of postpartum depression are similar to other depressive disorders.

You will have to give yourself time to climb out of that valley again. It will be an emotional and perhaps confusing period, but light shines at the end of the tunnel. Even if you are depressed.

Help during a traumatic delivery

Women who have experienced a traumatic delivery are also at risk of feeling depressed. Sometimes this is confused with postpartum depression, but in reality the woman is stuck in her trauma. A different treatment is then required. It is also possible that you develop childbirth trauma and postpartum depression.

Negative feelings after childbirth are different for every woman. Handle with Care has an eye for your situation and provides support that suits you. You are always welcome with us for a personal conversation, or take a look at our online coaching.

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